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Last night I came out of the bathroom to my son, Casey standing there waiting for me. With his voice shaking he said he had to tell me something. I got that same feeling in my gut that I had when my daughter, Katie told me she was pregnant at 15. A big knot. And I knew what he would say. I've known for a long time. I've just been waiting for the words to come from him. He told me he is gay. I immediately hugged him and told him how much I love him. He asked me if this changed that. I told him that nothing would change that. I asked him why he felt he had to tell me right now. Did something happen? He told me he was tired of being lonely. It broke my heart. I am the third person he told. He told his friends Shannon and Mallory first. They were as surprised as I was, which was not at all.  A part of my heart is broken, for him. I know what he has ahead of him. He has prejudice and hatred ahead of him. He's lucky to be in Grand Rapids, which is the 10th gayest city in the country. It was in a magazine article last week. And when I saw it last week I thought it was a good thing for him. He's not alone. He said he hasn't done anything with anyone, thank God. He's not ready for anything like that. I told him to watch out for anyone who would might want to use him. I have to give him the same advice I would give to a girl. Watch out for unscrupulous men. I know this isn't a choice. Why would anyone, by choice, set themselves up for a lifetime of prejudice and hate. I hope, just like I hope for my other kids, that he can be happy. I hope he can someday find someone who will love him the way he deserves.  He also told me he wants to go be a psychologist. I think he would be awesome.